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Clutter by Jeff Betman Ph.D October 20, 2009

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I might as well tell you.

You will probably find out eventually.

Better to hear it from me.

Ready?

I come from a long line of clutter.  My dad clutters, his dad did the same.  Even to this day, my dad keeps stuff for no apparent reason.  It is just how he is.

My parents recently had some water damage in their basement and I was helping to clean up old papers.  We went through boxes of receipts and stuff from 1986.

1986!

Come on.

1986?

Really.  I am not that bad, but probably left to my lazy, default behavior I can and could be even worse.

So, today’s topic is clutter.  In my opinion, clutter is stressful and takes up psychic space in your brain.  It drains your energy.  It is registers on your brain every time you see it.

If you have to find something, good luck in all that clutter.

Life is harder with clutter.  Everything is not in its place.

Besides, and I am putting myself first in line here, I think we all have too much stuff anyway.  If half my stuff magically disappeared, it would probably improve the quality and ease of my life.

Which brings me to a great book by Karen Kingston called Clear Your Clutter With Feng Shui.  Now, you may or may not be a believer.  Doesn’t matter.  You don’t have to be a believer in gravity and it is still there.

Regardless, Ms. Kingston says something on page 37, which has had a big impact on me.  She states:  Keeping things “just in case” indicates a lack of trust in the future.  Wow.  A lack of trust.  Amazing.  Not trusting the world and the future, of course it makes sense to keep things.

For example, If I move out of my house and keep my garden hoses that is fine. But, what if I move into a condo?  Aren’t hoses available in most every state (that was a bad joke)?  Wouldn’t it be better to give the hose to someone who needs it here and now, and get another one down the road, if needed.  Less stuff to move, less stuff to have, less psychic mind space taken up, and an easier life.

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Jeffrey A. Betman, Ph.D.

Jeffrey A. Betman, Ph.D. is a psychologist, author, and life coach helping people toward the easy life. For a FREE newsletter ($197 value) on making your life easier and FREE report titled 5 Steps To An Easy Life That You Probably Know, But Don’t Do Yet, go to www.LifeIsEasyCoaching.com/sq

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10 things that don’t stress me out. October 14, 2009

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It is around 5:00 in the morning I cannot sleep. Hmm, I think, “I should get some work done”. Well, its not actually work, writing is simply typing organized thoughts. This a.m. with my body full of tension (which explains the sleeplessness) and coffee in hand I will share with you the things that don’t stress me out and maybe my body will listen.

  1. My desk – It holds my favorite things for me. The book I’m reading, the super cool silver nail polish I want to try, a notebook I write all my creative ideas, headphones and coffee cup full of coffee. There are more things but you get the idea.
  2. My car- it takes me to fun places, where I get to meet new and wonderful people, visit my parents, see amazing places outside of where I live.
  3. My kid’s laugh- when the whole-heartedly laugh the sound is priceless.
  4. Walking- I live by a small lake surrounded by paths and neighborhoods. It’s beautiful in the fall.
  5. True friends-They are always my advocate and just fun to be with. (Anyone who makes us laugh is a gift)
  6. Cooking- The process of chopping and creating a delicious meal while sipping a glass of wine on a Saturday afternoon makes me happy. Not to mention the lovely friends and family I get to share it with.
  7. My Dog Daphne- She is always by my side and happy to be around me.
  8. Sunshine coming through the window- Even though I’m a couple hours away from that actually happening right now. It gives me warm fuzzies on the coldest days.
  9. Comfy pants- Do I need to explain?
  10. Wine- A great glass of wine with some French bread and cheese, my fav.

Do you see? It is nothing fancy, nothing out of the ordinary, just simple everyday things that keep me going. What are some things in your life that don’t stress you out? It can be as simple as brushing your teeth to running a marathon. We all have our own lists. What is on yours?

 

Do you need a professional organizer? 10 questions to ask yourself. August 22, 2009

1.   Is there a stack of unopened mail on your kitchen counter or stuffed in drawers or piled on a        shelf?

2.    Do you frequently pay bills late simply because you cannot find them or forgot about them?

3.    Do you feel overwhelmed when you open any closet in your home? Do you throw things in the closet when you don’t know what else to do with it?

4.    Where is all your kid’s artwork? In a pile somewhere in the basement, or the ole closet trick.

5.    Is the desk in your home office covered in papers? How does your filing system look? Do you have a filing system?

6.    Are you working as efficiently as you think you can?

7.    Do you have trouble keeping track of the schedules for your family, yourself or employees?

8.    How about your kid’s toys? Are they all over your home and office? Do they never get picked up because by the end of the day you’re too tired and really have no idea where they go?

9.    Are you embarrassed to have people over? If a client entered your home office today how would you feel? What impression would you make?

10.   When its time to make a meal or a snack, do you have a hard time finding the right items? Do you keep buying the same things because they get pushed to the back of the cabinet and forgotten?

I really could go on and on with the questions. As you probably noticed I included a couple more questions in some of the numbers. It comes down to this, you’re busy, many people who depend on you. It could be running your household, kids, business and everything else that comes with it.  How much less stress and time would you save by having an organized home and office? I bet I know the answer because I also have a family, run a business and household and everything in between. It’s time for you to change – start today.  Email Julie at Organized Home Inc and begin.

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Standing up to the elephant July 2, 2009

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I was at the Doctor with my son the other day. The Doctor said something so simple and obvious and it hit me like a snowball. You see we were at my son’s physiatrist reviewing his meds for ADHD and emotion management issues.  He said when we feel anxious, frustrated and impatient with the things going on around us, there is an internal struggle. Bam!

 

Yesterday I was impatient, anxious and frustrated at my kids and with the state of my house. Not until I stopped and thought of why I was being so unpleasant did I realize that it had nothing to do with my kids (don’t get me wrong they have their moments) or the state of my house, it was the freaking elephant I’ve been talking about.

 

Okay, Julie take a deep breath, stand up straight and face it. Last night was the time. I spoke my words and stood my ground. There was resistance and there still is, but my feelings and thoughts are out there. The dark heavy cloud that has been baring its weight on my shoulders is getting lighter. I know that this path that I have chosen will be difficult, but the person that has unveiled itself once again longs to be free.

 

I compare the feeling to when I visit a big city. The electrical energy that flows from the buildings and streets is addictive. The sense of all the possibilities that lay before me is intoxicating and I want it!

 

I take a deep breath and stand before the elephant; although it is faded it still exists. I will keep going. I will persevere.  My friends those are the thoughts racing in my mind today. Right now I’m going to play a game with my kids.